Heh, I hate that "tag X people" or "send to 400 of your friends" bit ... too reminiscent of chain letters and stupid email forwards. I just delete those lines from the html code when I do a meme that has one.
I'd be interested to hear about your workshop.
I would have thought that a lot of people respond well to all of the Languages to varying degrees, since *I* do, but I've met quite a few people that just don't see certain things as acts of love at all, even when explained that the person doing the act is doing it out of love. It's quite fascinating.
For instance, the example I gave in my post about fixing the brakes on the car. I was once told that a particular guy does maintenence on his wife's car, not because he's the guy and he's supposed to, but because he cares so much about her that he wants her to be safe when she's not with him, and one of the ways he does to ensure that is to keep her car running well. The wife just thought he tinkered with the car because "that's what guys do" and sometimes to avoid spending time with her. But in reality, he had her in mind the whole time. Even after explaining this to her, she still resented the amount of time he spent in the garage, just couldn't wrap her brain around this Act of Service as a way to show love because she was so thoroughly embedded in Quality Time and couldn't see any other method of communicating love.
And this happens more often than I thought. Fascinating stuff.
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Date: 2007-05-02 03:36 pm (UTC)I'd be interested to hear about your workshop.
I would have thought that a lot of people respond well to all of the Languages to varying degrees, since *I* do, but I've met quite a few people that just don't see certain things as acts of love at all, even when explained that the person doing the act is doing it out of love. It's quite fascinating.
For instance, the example I gave in my post about fixing the brakes on the car. I was once told that a particular guy does maintenence on his wife's car, not because he's the guy and he's supposed to, but because he cares so much about her that he wants her to be safe when she's not with him, and one of the ways he does to ensure that is to keep her car running well. The wife just thought he tinkered with the car because "that's what guys do" and sometimes to avoid spending time with her. But in reality, he had her in mind the whole time. Even after explaining this to her, she still resented the amount of time he spent in the garage, just couldn't wrap her brain around this Act of Service as a way to show love because she was so thoroughly embedded in Quality Time and couldn't see any other method of communicating love.
And this happens more often than I thought. Fascinating stuff.