stuff. Moving stuff around. Little bitty poly rant.

[summer_jackel]

Not in the most pleasant headspace (ssnnaarrrrrrrrllllllllllll, hackle, bitey Jackel), although for the positive, I've moved a PILE of things around in my bedroom. The emac is now installed in here, and mine. (yay!) A few more bookshelves and shelves for the plushies (heh, I think my 3 Anubis plushies get their own shelf/the cuddliest altar in the house) and I'll be all ready to nest. In the interim, the place still looks like a war zone (and the parrots are all wtf???) but hey, it will be better. One can hope.

here's an interesting little meme kinda thing.

The Everything Test

There are many different types of tests on the internet today. Personality tests, purity tests, stereotype tests, political tests. But now, there is one test to rule them all.

Traditionally, online tests would ask certain questions about your musical tastes or clothing for a stereotype, your experiences for a purity test, or deep questions for a personality test.We're turning that upside down - all the questions affect all the results, and we've got some innovative results too! Enjoy :-)

Personality You are more emotional than logical, more concerned about others than concerned about self, more atheist than religious, more loner than dependent, more workaholic than lazy, more rebel than traditional, more artistic mind than engineering mind, more idealist than cynical, more leader than follower, and more introverted than extroverted. As for specific personality traits, you are innovative (93%), romantic (86%), intellectual (78%), religious (73%).

Stereotypes Old Geezer 100% Prep 69% College Student 64%

Life Experience Sex 73% Substances 35% Travel 47%

Politics Your political views would best be described as Socialist, whom you agree with around 100% of the time.

Socioeconomic Your attitude toward life best associates you with Upper Class. You make more than 0% of those who have taken this test, and 100% less than the U.S. average.

If your life was a movie, it would be rated R. By the way, your hottness rank is 69%, hotter than 80% of other test takers.

TAKE THE TEST
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...I think I may have screwed up on the economic questions, though I am kinda poor right now. I mislike the term 'religious' applied to me at all (spiritual yes please, religious Hell No) though that's too fine a distinction to ask from a silly LJ meme. But, Old Geezer???? gee, Thaaaaaanks. (I'm only 31! And always grrring at Chris when he bemoans his age at 41).
Least I'm a hot old geezer.

And the ranty bit: this thing asks you whether you're in relationship with a guy or with a girl, exclusively. There are other options, but "I'm poly" or "one of each, thanks" isn't one of them. Normally I wouldn't care...I suppose it is a minority relationship style, if not in my circle of friends, and easy to forget about including if you're not used to it. But the test then goes on to ask you questions about things like three-way encounters and how many people have you been in bed with at once, etc. Things that come up when you're poly, right? So what, the assumption is that a person might sleep around in interesting configurations, but not have a committed relationship with more than one person at any given time? I don't like where that assumption takes us, see.

OK, but so I'm really snarly in general right now, and snarking at the internets is unlikely to help. While I am, though (humor me, I let myself be snarky so rarely) may I mention that poly (while very much my preferred love style at this point) can be a ^%$#@!!! pain in the ass???

So's monogamy, though.

heh. snarlyface. I'm gonna go walk my dogs now.

Comments

[summer-jackel.livejournal.com]

oh, man, writing a poly book would be hard...because everyone's configuration is just so DIFFERENT, y'know? Any way you cut it, though, poly really is a lot of hard work. And complicated!!!!! Figuring out what it entails is like a daily journey.

"The Ethical Slut" is a good book to start with, though. It dosen't all sit easy for me but it has some neat bits.

[demonvaska.livejournal.com]

The real problem is that people confuse sex with love and then compound it with the belief that you can only love one person at a time. It's a determination to simplify emotions by dividing people into strangers, friends and lovers and saying that there is only X amount of emotion to go around and that each one has a value (e.g. True Love = 10 points, Friend = 5 points). It's a way of viewing things that is not only unwieldy and insane but causes insanity, and frankly, misery. To use a poor metaphor, it is the equivalent of saying you can only own one jacket for your entire life, regardless of the weather, event or location.

[summer-jackel.livejournal.com]

yeah, that's pretty much it. Loving one person, even completely and entirely, does not negate or lessen the same or 'equal' emotion for another, at least for me. Love just isn't mutually exclusive and, well, the energies and emotions and neurochemicals that bond us to pack are complicated things.

Now, making logistics work and various levels of energy balance, on the other hand...poly tends to make that a lot more difficult, in an exponential growth kind of way.