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Mar. 25th, 2008 09:23 amKestrel and Lucy went to Yosemite and all I got were these...
...actually, these are some pretty darn sweet coyote pics! So yes, 2 of my sweeties went to Yosemite for a short pack trip. While there, they spotted a couple of God's Dogs sniffing around in the parking lot, chillin', doin' that Coyote Thang. Of course, being a great lover of all things coy, I was thrilled to get these, and equally of course all of you <3 coyotes too, because how couldn't you, really, so I am sharing. I saw one in the Ansel Adams high country last summer, but he never got close enough to get good photos of...not being habituated to humans, he saw us and split.
( These cuties stuck around, though )
I have this feeling that I ought to say a few words about polyamory here; there's got to be a long, thoughtful exploration of jealousy and compersion and the way personal growth is often what happens when you're looking in the other direction. But let's keep it short. Am I a little sad that the spice went on a trip without me? A bit, of course. Am I sad that the triad dynamic between us three just doesn't go as deep as between all 3 pairs, one result of which is that things like major journeyings are best done in pairs? Well, it is certainly getting a lot easier. Did I enjoy going to the city and listening to awesome punk/Celtic fusion with the new lady I am unexpectedly courting? Hell yes. Am I looking forward to the pack trip Kestrel and I are planning? ...are you kidding?! Does Tiger like to claw things?! More seriously, did my flexibility in this benefit my relationships with both of them and the cohesion of our triad? Yes. Very much so.
What I think I'm trying to say is this: in my experience, we usually enter into relationships with some kind of preconceived ideal of what we want, what we're looking for, and what will make us happy. People grow and change, and relationships can be like chemical reactions with unknown compounds: what you get may really surprise you. Often as not, it may, uh, diverge a bit from your ideal. At that point, we have some choices: we can get out of the situation and try again, or we can explore what is and see what we can do with it. In a changing environment, the adaptable creature flourishes best: ask any coyote.
And sometimes, exploring unexpected terrain, we find kinds of blooming gardens we never dreamed of.
...actually, these are some pretty darn sweet coyote pics! So yes, 2 of my sweeties went to Yosemite for a short pack trip. While there, they spotted a couple of God's Dogs sniffing around in the parking lot, chillin', doin' that Coyote Thang. Of course, being a great lover of all things coy, I was thrilled to get these, and equally of course all of you <3 coyotes too, because how couldn't you, really, so I am sharing. I saw one in the Ansel Adams high country last summer, but he never got close enough to get good photos of...not being habituated to humans, he saw us and split.
( These cuties stuck around, though )
I have this feeling that I ought to say a few words about polyamory here; there's got to be a long, thoughtful exploration of jealousy and compersion and the way personal growth is often what happens when you're looking in the other direction. But let's keep it short. Am I a little sad that the spice went on a trip without me? A bit, of course. Am I sad that the triad dynamic between us three just doesn't go as deep as between all 3 pairs, one result of which is that things like major journeyings are best done in pairs? Well, it is certainly getting a lot easier. Did I enjoy going to the city and listening to awesome punk/Celtic fusion with the new lady I am unexpectedly courting? Hell yes. Am I looking forward to the pack trip Kestrel and I are planning? ...are you kidding?! Does Tiger like to claw things?! More seriously, did my flexibility in this benefit my relationships with both of them and the cohesion of our triad? Yes. Very much so.
What I think I'm trying to say is this: in my experience, we usually enter into relationships with some kind of preconceived ideal of what we want, what we're looking for, and what will make us happy. People grow and change, and relationships can be like chemical reactions with unknown compounds: what you get may really surprise you. Often as not, it may, uh, diverge a bit from your ideal. At that point, we have some choices: we can get out of the situation and try again, or we can explore what is and see what we can do with it. In a changing environment, the adaptable creature flourishes best: ask any coyote.
And sometimes, exploring unexpected terrain, we find kinds of blooming gardens we never dreamed of.
